I BELIEVE…

Just in case you were curious, here’s a peek inside my head.

• I believe love learns about color. Color-blindness is an idea that does not exist. WE ALL see color.
• I believe stereotypes do no one any good and are generally wrong.
• I believe one can and should date interracially, if that is their choice, regardless of ‘love’. No one uses that justification for so called ‘regular’ dating.
• I believe negative generalizations about one’s own race as an excuse to date outside of one’s own is toxic, self-hatred, plain and simple.
• I believe positive generalizations about another race as an excuse to date outside of one’s own is toxic, self-hatred, plain and simple.
• I believe one can have a preference for other races without it being a fetish, just as some prefer, blonds, brunettes, curvy, and so on.
• I believe racial fetish is the sexualization of stereotypic qualities.
• I believe one of the reasons white men and black women, in the U.S. have avoided dating less than our counterparts, is because of “racial guilt” on both sides, stemming from our racist history and the wide gulf that is being on the top of the racial heap vs. the bottom.
• I believe that because white women have experienced gender inequality, the gulf is not as wide, when it comes to dating black men. I also believe the racist history of the U.S., in their case has contributed to an element of “forbidden fruit”.
• I believe the idea of making ‘pretty exotic babies’ is a disturbing myth that stops just short of frightening genetic tinkering.
• I believe beauty is universal.
• I believe black women have the option to manipulate their hair in many ways. We should exercise that choice. No one style, natural or chemically-treated makes one any more or less black.
• I believe the world would be a better place if we accepted our beauty as it is, from the blackest of the black to the palest of the pale and everything in between, from the divinely curvy to the straight and narrow.
• I believe the biggest challenge in the pursuit of all things is fear including dating interracially.
• I believe limiting yourself to one race, if not for preference, but because of some form of loyalty, that will never be perceived by strangers within one’s own race is sadly, self-limiting.
• I believe anyone who has a problem with interracial dating should simply, not date interracially. Leave those who do, alone. Their dating choices have no more effect on you, than anyone else’s.
• I believe I love writing, these torrid tales